NikkiA
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We have three boys. I love them very much. D loves every human being, ever. He is our Therapy Cat who handles everything well- our Jaspurr. The other two need us a bit more.
Jarvis is like your Safari. He has a person he loves, and a second human who happens to be there. I'm human II to Jarvis.
He took about a year to warm up to me enough to stop scratching and biting. For a while, he was Michael's boy and only Michael's boy. He still loves Michael best, but I can now handle him at will, including carrying him around (he doesn't like it but he tolerates it), and he cuddles with me in bed every night. I wake up in the morning with his paws wrapped around my leg and his head against it, under the covers. Weird to some people, but pretty incredible for me given that for MONTHS I couldn't really touch him without being scratched or bitten.
For months, he hid under the bed upstairs whenever a stranger came in, and if they got between him and upstairs, they ended up getting scratched if they intercepted him, and if they picked him up, bitten. Hang in there. It will come. He is now willing to meet, hang out with, and be touched by strangers. Now if he is picked up, he doesn't panic, which is what he was doing before, he just gives me "HELP ME MOM" eyes and I go rescue him. Just an aside- he is now NEVER more than 10 feet from me. Ever. At any time except when he needs his litterbox. He is actually more attached than the other two, just naturally more nervous.
Mickey is a total love around Michael and me, but takes some time around strangers. He needs someone to be in the house for 24-48 continuous hours before he will make friends. If you pick him up and he doesn't know you, and you don't do it exactly right, you are going to get scratched. He isn't aggressive, he is just scared. Leave him be and offer him a treat and the 24-48 hour "friend" window becomes 2 hours.
It will come.
Jarvis is like your Safari. He has a person he loves, and a second human who happens to be there. I'm human II to Jarvis.
He took about a year to warm up to me enough to stop scratching and biting. For a while, he was Michael's boy and only Michael's boy. He still loves Michael best, but I can now handle him at will, including carrying him around (he doesn't like it but he tolerates it), and he cuddles with me in bed every night. I wake up in the morning with his paws wrapped around my leg and his head against it, under the covers. Weird to some people, but pretty incredible for me given that for MONTHS I couldn't really touch him without being scratched or bitten.
For months, he hid under the bed upstairs whenever a stranger came in, and if they got between him and upstairs, they ended up getting scratched if they intercepted him, and if they picked him up, bitten. Hang in there. It will come. He is now willing to meet, hang out with, and be touched by strangers. Now if he is picked up, he doesn't panic, which is what he was doing before, he just gives me "HELP ME MOM" eyes and I go rescue him. Just an aside- he is now NEVER more than 10 feet from me. Ever. At any time except when he needs his litterbox. He is actually more attached than the other two, just naturally more nervous.
Mickey is a total love around Michael and me, but takes some time around strangers. He needs someone to be in the house for 24-48 continuous hours before he will make friends. If you pick him up and he doesn't know you, and you don't do it exactly right, you are going to get scratched. He isn't aggressive, he is just scared. Leave him be and offer him a treat and the 24-48 hour "friend" window becomes 2 hours.
It will come.